Stop Controlling and Start Receiving

I have often pondered on why achieving abundance can be such a challenge – abundance in the way of money and any other area in life.

I have come to realize on a deeper level, more about my control issues. I am a self-proclaimed control freak. Yes I admit it, as much as I don’t want to but there it is.

It’s like clutching a steering wheel which is out of my control – afraid to let go. Oh, so little faith!

Control’s effect on my life

What is the effect on my life of being a control freak? In all kinds of ways and big ones. The greatest one for me is financial. You might be wondering how control has a bearing on financial abundance. They are indeed connected, in a way I have experienced for myself.

For instance, if I want to control a situation it is because I want it to suit me. Perhaps I am not allowing the situation to unfold as it would for my best interest.

I do acknowledge however, the necessity to take care of my own needs. And there is a difference.

To take care of my needs is to listen to my body, my soul, and my desires. I am practicing self-care and the only person I am affecting is myself. I’m not trying to change any situation except to attend to what I need. I can hear myself when I am open to listen to my soul speak.

When I worry, am annoyed, or am fearful, I want to control. When I worry about money for instance, fearing I don’t have enough, I create blocks in allowing. How can the universe send what I need when I want to take it all upon myself or ask for things in a way that might not resonate with my situation? I create blocks by being demanding as a way to try to control and this all comes from fear.

As I carry on with fear and control, the universe cannot send me what I desire because I am creating blocks in allowing and therefore, I cannot receive. As a result, I will not be in receiving mode.

What can happen is this: without being aware of it I put out to the universe to send me situations to be fearful of and want to try to control. The universe delivers and I’m never short of these situations. This is an insatiable addiction.

How can I receive?

So how can I, or anyone become more open to allow and to be in receptive mode? I need to have faith that the universe knows exactly what I need and desire. Then I can listen to my intuitive prodding about what I truly desire. This is how I see being connected to universal spirit. I connect by desiring what the universe has for me – by knowing who I am and what my purpose is here.

I need to let go so I can be clear. I find when I am clear, the universe delivers what I desire. There can be no fear, doubt, or worry as I need to focus on what I desire with complete conviction.

Do not make decisions based on anger

There is another component to receiving what I desire: making a decision based on what my soul is asking and not on anger or feeling fed up with something I want to get rid of. The decision must be made with a clear head and a strong heart.

Without needing to control I can hear my intuitive voice as I am open and sensitive to its gentle prodding. This is important because the soul’s voice can be so gentle as to be but a whisper. A whisper can be difficult to hear over the din of mental chatter that carries on all day long.

When we can quiet the mental chatter of control and worry we can know what we truly desire. The fear and worry are gone like a puff of smoke in the wind. Blocks are busted and dissipated. We are open to gifts from the universe by allowing and therefore, receiving.

Sound good? I still need more practice at this, myself. However, I have manifested many things I’ve desired by having complete conviction. With no fear, no worry, no need to control, I can truly believe these things will come to pass. With no blocks I am open to receive.

There is one more thing I would like to add. The only thing I can control in a situation is my own response – which is my emotions and my thoughts. With more practice in this I can begin to move toward self-mastery. And that’s it.

Joyful journeying.